Positive Psychology
Use Your Good To Your Advantage
Positive Psychology is about leveraging what is right with people, not just fixing what is wrong. The late Dr. Christopher Peterson, the co-founder of positive psychology explained that “Positive psychology is about helping people move North of Neutral.”
But to get north of neutral you have to have a road map. The road map that I use to help people move north of neutral and flourish is called the PERMA-V Model.
Dr. Martin Seligman introduced the first 5 pathways (PERMA) in his 2011 book “Flourish.” He describes them as the building blocks of well-being and happiness. They are:
- Positivity
- Engagement
- Relationships
- Meaning
- Achievement
In 2016, Seligman accepted that there was a 6th pathway- Vitality- as proposed by Dr. Emiliya Zhivotovskay, founder and CEO of the Flourishing Center.
- Vitality
Let’s look at each component in a little more detail and explore how they contribute to a flourishing life.
Where traditional psychology focuses on fixing what was wrong with people, positive psychology offers a paradigm shift and focus’ on “what’s right” with people. This is important because while treating and curing mental illness is vital, traditional psychology misses the opportunity to serve over 85% of the population who don’t have a diagnosed disorder.
Twenty-five years ago, positive psychology began to fill that gap by offering science-based interventions to help everyone increase their wellbeing and happiness quotients no matter their starting point. We all have the opportunity to go “north of neutral” and be better than fine.
But keep in mind, positive psychology is about a lot more than just “being happy.” Positive psychology focus’ on increasing positive emotions to build your resilience, increasing engagement for better outcomes, strengthening relationships for stronger social ties, discovering your own meaning and purpose, celebrating personal and professional achievements, and promoting vitality and individual well-being.
The PERMA-V Model
Positivity isn’t about just being cheerful all of the time or suppressing negative feelings when they arise. Instead, the first pathway of the model actually looks at positivity from 3 perspectives- satisfaction with the past, optimism for the future, and happiness or pleasure with the present. By using science-based strategies to strengthen these 3 areas of positive emotions, we can increase our overall happiness level which then cascades into every other area of our life.
Here’s a few fun facts about positivity:
- People who have a positive outlook on life experience less absenteeism, less job turnover, and are less likely to burnout at work.
- Happy people have stronger immune systems and take fewer medications.
- Happiness is something that you do have some control over. In fact, 40% of your happiness level at any given time is fully controllable with positivity interventions.
> Try This: 3 Good Things Exercise
A study found that writing 3 good things down every day along with “how you contributed to that good thing happening” significantly increased happiness and decreased depressive symptoms immediately after the intervention and these effects lasted as far as 6 months post-intervention. (Seligman, Steen, Park & Peterson, 2005). Give this technique a try for the next 7 days and see how you feel.
Engagement is the act of being invested and present in the work you do. Dr. Martin Seligman, co-founder of positive psychology defines engagement as “Being one with the music…time stopping and the loss of self-consciousness during an absorbing activity.” You’ve been there, right? You are doing an activity that you really enjoy and when you look up you are surprised at how much time has gone by? When that happens you have experienced what the scientists call flow. The more often you achieve flow, the more likely you are engaged with the activity at hand. It could be anything from preparing for a big presentation to playing an intense game of chess or tennis.
Here’s a few fun facts about engagement and flow:
- People who exhibit high levels of self-control are better able to achieve the state of flow or engagement.
- The Gallup Organization reports that when people are able to use their natural strengths for engaging activities, they are 66% more satisfied with the quality of their life.
- Engagement doesn’t normally create a feeling of “happy” in the moment, but it does induce feeling happy or proud afterwards.
> Try this: 5:5:5 Breathing Exercise
Here’s a technique designed to help you train your brain for increased self-control. Take 5 belly breathes, inhaling for 5 counts and exhaling for 5 counts. When you do this be sure you stick your belly out on the inhale and retract it on the exhale. This will activate your parasympathetic nervous system which lifts your mood, strengthens your immune system, and lowers your blood pressure.
As human beings we have an innate need to belong to a group; to connect and bond. In fact, the feeling of isolation is caused less by the number of people around, but by our feeling of being unloved.
Altruism is defined as the belief in, or practice of, the disinterested selfless well-being of others. Cultivating a sense of altruism along with kindness, is directly related to an increase in life satisfaction and a decrease in depression. Science also shows that participating in an altruistic activities on a regular basis will lower your blood pressure and increase your longevity.
Here’s a few fun facts about relationships:
- The majority of people have 3 friends. Everyone needs at least 1 friend.
- Our brains are wired to recognize 150 people. After 150 friends, the quality of our relationships decrease.
- According to a study by the UnitedHealth Group, in a survey of people who volunteered for a cause they cared about, 76% felt physically healthier, 94% said that volunteering improved their mood, and 78% said that volunteering made them feel less stressed.
> Try this: Acts of Kindness Exercise
Looking for ways to connect with other people? Try one of these random acts of kindness and see how it strengthens your relationships and helps you feel more connected to people in general.
- Smile at 5 strangers today.
- Buy a plant and put it in a terracotta pot. Write words that describe a friend on the pot and give it to that friend.
- Leave a note on someone’s care telling them how awesome they parked.
- Donate old towels or blankets to an animal shelter.
- Send a positive text message to 5 of your friends right now.
Meaning and purpose are often used interchangeably, but there are subtle differences. Meaning is the feeling that life fits into a larger context and has some significance. Purpose is an overall sense of goals and direction in life. You can think about it as meaning is understanding why we are here and purpose is a plan for what we are going to do while we are here.
Meaning and purpose compliment each other and when it comes to wellbeing, finding meaning helps people who are struggling with life and finding purpose helps people flourish.
Here’s a few fun facts about meaning and purpose:
- No one wants to experience trauma, but it doesn’t have to lead to PTSD. By using brain-based techniques, it can also lead to Post- Traumatic Growth or PTG.
- A study on purpose and longevity, found that having a sense of higher purpose cuts the risk of heart disease by 27% and cuts the risk of Alzheimer’s Disease by 50%. (Hill & Turiano 2014)
- 72% of college students and 59% of adults classified finding meaningful work as one of their most important goals in life. (Net Impact 2012)
> Try this: Values Exercise
Being clear on your values may help you discover your purpose. Spend some time clarifying your top 5 values. Another way to think of this is “what do you want to be remembered for?” Write your values down and use them as you make decisions to ensure that you are living your purpose.
Achievement is something done successfully by effort, courage, or skill. Our ability to implement change theory, find intrinsic motivation, create goals, visualize the outcome, and maintain positive habits all relate directly to realizing success and experiencing a sense of accomplishment.
Everyone has the ability to find success and positive psychology provides concrete action steps that you can follow to increase you chance of achieving your goals every time.
Here’s a few fun facts about achievement:
- Hope and optimism are a direct predictor of achievement in all sorts of domains from academic, athletic, military, political, and vocational (Peterson & Seligman 2004).
- Google discovered that the most productive and successful employees are people working on 3 different projects at any given time.
- 40% of the actions we take are governed by habit, not actual decision making. ( Neal 2006)
> Try this: Best Possible Self Exercise
Visualizing yourself at your best boosts your ability to achieve your goals. Spend 20 minutes a day for the next 4 days writing about yourself in the future. Imagine everything in your life has gone exceptionally well and your had work has helped you accomplish of your goals. Imagine living this ideal life that is the perfect realization of your all your fondest dreams.
In studies using this prompt, Laura King (2001) found that 3 weeks later, the group was happier and more optimistic and 5 months later they were physically healthier than before.
The newest pathway to the PERMA-V model is Vitality which is simply the state of being strong and active and having the energy to do what you want to do. Vitality is the pathway that serves the other pathways. It is truly the keystone and includes components such as sleep, physical activity, breath, sunlight, ergonomics, and nutrition.
Here’s a few fun facts about vitality:
- PE classes were introduced into public schools after the American conscripts were not fit enough to pass the rigors set to serve in the military during WW I.
- Until age 30 your muscles naturally grow larger and stronger. During your 30s your muscles naturally begin to shrink which decreases your metabolism.
- Spending time in nature can improve your memory performance and attention span by 20%. (TX A&M)
> Try this: Problem Solving in Nature Exercise
Humans are designed to solve problems most effectively while in motion in nature. Next time you are struggling with a problem and aren’t sure what to do next, take a walk in nature. If you can walk barefoot, even better. Allow yourself to appreciate the scenery before heading back to problem solving mode.
How does Smart Possibilities use the PERMA- V Model?
The PERMA-V Model is a scientifically supported and comprehensive model in that it provides multiple options for human flourishing. Some my clients like to start at the beginning and work through all six pathways. Other clients prefer to pick one pathway and dig deep into techniques that help them successfully approach challenges that they are facing.
You are the expert on your life. You know intuitively what will serve you. I would love to be your coach and teacher as you take the opportunity to explore your possibilities for optimal wellbeing.
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Pari is the person you want in your corner. She is compassionate, empathetic, knowledgeable, and direct. When unhappy in a job, she helped me identify what I didn’t like and what I wanted to look for next. When I wanted to step into leadership, she provided coaching and resources to grow that skill. Now being in a leadership position, I work with her on continuing to get better and ultimately will prep one day for executive work. I call her my “Career Therapist” because I know I can bring any challenge or thought to her and she will handle it with ease while also providing homework for me to do so that I can learn and grow on my own.
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Positivity
- People who have a positive outlook on life experience less absenteeism, less job turnover, and are less likely to burnout at work.
- Happy people have stronger immune systems and take fewer medications.
- Happiness is something that you do have some control over. In fact, 40% of your happiness level at any given time is fully controllable with positivity interventions.
Try This: 3 Good Things Exercise
A study found that writing 3 good things down every day along with “how you contributed to that good thing happening” significantly increased happiness and decreased depressive symptoms immediately after the intervention and these effects lasted as far as 6 months post-intervention. (Seligman, Steen, Park & Peterson, 2005). Give this technique a try for the next 7 days and see how you feel.
Engagement
Engagement is the act of being invested and present in the work you do. Dr. Martin Seligman, co-founder of positive psychology defines engagement as “Being one with the music…time stopping and the loss of self-consciousness during an absorbing activity.” You’ve been there, right? You are doing an activity that you really enjoy and when you look up you are surprised at how much time has gone by? When that happens you have experienced what the scientists call flow.
The more often you achieve flow, the more likely you are engaged with the activity at hand. It could be anything from preparing for a big presentation to playing an intense game of chess or tennis.
Here’s a few fun facts about engagement and flow.
- People who exhibit high levels of self-control are better able to achieve the state of flow or engagement.
- The Gallup Organization reports that when people are able to use their natural strengths for engaging activities, they are 66% more satisfied with the quality of their life.
- Engagement doesn’t normally create a feeling of “happy” in the moment, but it does induce feeling happy or proud afterwards.
Try This: 5:5:5 Breathing Exercise
Relationships
As human beings we have an innate need to belong to a group; to connect and bond. In fact, the feeling of isolation is caused less by the number of people around, but by our feeling of being loved.
Altruism is defined as the belief in, or practice of, the disinterested selfless well-being of others. Cultivating a sense of altruism along with kindness, is directly related to an increase in life satisfaction and a decrease in depression. Science also shows that participating in an altruistic activities on a regular basis will lower your blood pressure and increase your longevity.
Here’s a few fun facts about relationships.
- The majority of people have 3 friends. Everyone needs at least 1 friend.
- Our brains are wired to recognize 150 people. After 150 friends, the quality of our relationships decrease.
- According to a study by the UnitedHealth Group, in a survey of people who volunteered for a cause they cared about, 76% felt physically healthier, 94% said that volunteering improved their mood, and 78% said that volunteering made them feel less stressed.
Try This: Acts of Kindness Exercise
Looking for ways to connect with other people? Try one of these random acts of kindness and see how it strengthens your relationships and helps you feel more connected to people in general.
- Smile at 5 strangers today.
- Buy a plant and put it in a terracotta pot. Write words that describe a friend on the pot and give it to that friend.
- Leave a note on someone’s care telling them how awesome they parked.
- Donate old towels or blankets to an animal shelter.
- Send a positive text message to 5 of your friends right now.
Engagement
Engagement is the act of being invested and present in the work you do. Dr. Martin Seligman, co-founder of positive psychology defines engagement as “Being one with the music…time stopping and the loss of self-consciousness during an absorbing activity.” You’ve been there, right? You are doing an activity that you really enjoy and when you look up you are surprised at how much time has gone by? When that happens you have experienced what the scientists call flow.
The more often you achieve flow, the more likely you are engaged with the activity at hand. It could be anything from preparing for a big presentation to playing an intense game of chess or tennis.
Here’s a few fun facts about engagement and flow.
- People who exhibit high levels of self-control are better able to achieve the state of flow or engagement.
- The Gallup Organization reports that when people are able to use their natural strengths for engaging activities, they are 66% more satisfied with the quality of their life.
- Engagement doesn’t normally create a feeling of “happy” in the moment, but it does induce feeling happy or proud afterwards.